1. Develop amnesia. Find some way to forget what he did. Or (again) didn’t do. Go without sleep or spin 50 times to reduce cognitive faculty. Stick a finger in the socket.
2. If biting your tongue hurts too much, pop some chocolate. Sure, every time.
3. Lie. Tell yourself he’s listening. The short-lived delusion will reap a harvest of peace for the home and the good of the kids.
4. Use your imagination. He mistook medication for digestive enzymes and is suffering severe side effects. Yeah, that’s it. He forgot because he’s sick.
5. Take a deep breath and count to 10. No, 40. In Portuguese…or Swahili. Lose yourself in a dictionary. Hec, master a foreign language. You’ll get there in no time and can hook any job you want. (Let me help. I can count to 1,000,000 in Korean.)
6. Don’t parrot your requests and be called a nag. Text him the list of Honey Dos (even if you’re sitting facing him) after breakfast when glucose has hit the brain before he plans his day. Lunch is too late, what with food coma and that sweet nap. Cap it at three tasks or he’ll ignore them. Reward him with a drink between tasks. Your head hurts? Consider the mental tap-dancing your cerebral exercise for the day. You’re excused from the Times crossword and Sudoku.
There. You might find yourself mangled, bruised, or diabetic. But gosh darn it, you are loving each other to death. Nothing worth having spares the suffering, and he is so worth it. Because when the amnesia wears off, you’ll remember: he said I do. And in his helplessly human way, he has.
Are we guys really that bad? 😃
Nothing sweets and some stress-reliever of kick-boxing won’t handle. =)
Hahaha! 😃
amnesia, he he
It can certainly help. 😃
“Sweets and kick-boxing”…my key to hitting our 25th wedding anniversary this year.
Loved this, D 🙂
Those two things are so you. That’s awesome. Managed to come out of 25 yrs not too dizzy or bruised. Congrats, M!
Ah, seeing you post again…a breath of fresh air in the blogosphere. When you come back, you come back strong, Diana. Thanks for this one. ❤️ 💛 💙 💜
Ha ha ha. I miss ya’ll terribly when life calls me away.
Oh my goodness, Diana! I can’t even laugh because hubby’s asleep next to me. Gotta love him and all the personal growth development he’s inspired. As always, I appreciate the clever way you put things in perspective.
Personal growth. Deep….DEEP character development!
Funny. And sweet. And true. I have been married for almost 14 years now…. 🙂 He is still the one.
“We’re still having fu-u-u-n. You’re still the One…” Doo roo roo….
😉 Something like that 😉
I’ve enjoyed this post! 😊
=) I enjoyed venting, I mean writing it!
Totally understand.
#2 and 6 for sure! I always text my honey-do list lol!
Oh, you’re ready to teach classes in this.
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*wink*
I know right…be happy why so fuss lol
This is so incredibly funny. And true. But mostly, incredibly funny.
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=) We turn tragedy into comedy. To survive.
Ha! Words of wisdom. 🙂
Wisdom…borne of great pain, they say.
If that doesn’t say it all! Perfectly said!
What fun! Well done.
=) Any way I can redeem the pain.
Diana! I wondered where you were! This post is so true. A long-term marriage requires humor – and patience. From both partners.
Hey you. I’d thought of you and wondered where yOu’d gone. =) Abundant humor seems to make up for the deficit in patience.
Super! After 53 years of marriage, I thought I had things down pat. You gave me some new ideas. Many thanks!
You should write your own. Any help I can get. =)
I think my hubby uses honey-do lists as toilet paper!
ROAR….
Text me the list and I’ll do it. Maybe I can attract some sweetness with the honey do… XD
LOL. You got it. The ones he leaves undone. I can also tell your ladies friends to…
I’m glad to ease the burden of women everywhere. XD
I would sum up all your tips as “exercise a sense of humor!” If we stop laughing, then we are really in trouble. You made me chuckle today and may have saved my marriage. LOL.
Ha ha ha. I know there was nothing to save over there, D. And ya’ll a well-adjusted bunch. No one’s asked for Korean lessons.
Whether wit, or sarcasm, it is sage advise. To nag is the surest way to have him go deaf, or worse. The last thing I did for my ex was that damn bathroom fan … Bathrooms with windows don’t need fans!
I’m actually inclined to agree on the windows vs. fans, P! Good man!
Power (nature) vs force (man) … 😉
Right, and who can afford divorce right now? Do you follow Stephanie at Little Miss Menopause BTW? This is one she would love and that’s quite a compliment!
Ha ha ha. This does have her sarcasm dripping from the page.
So true. You definitely have to have a sense of humor and calculate the costs. If 99% of the time, it’s good and depending on the level of importance on what is not, then you’re doing good. You could look on the flip side and see it from his point of view and begin to wonder why he’s still hanging around. Nope, best not do that. LOL
Ha ha ha. “You could look on the flip side and see it from his point of view and begin to wonder why he’s still hanging around” I don’t need to go jumping off a bridge now. =)
I keep a secret stash of chocolate in my den. MY. DEN. He has no idea…… 😀
You’ve been sounding creepy and scary lately. LOL.
It took all this time for the real me to come out! 🙂
I can see that…
Your article was excellent, but it always takes two to cause a problem. So, my advice is for both to be 100% honest with each other by always keeping the communications open with LOVE. Seeing their parents act in love to a problem will teach their children how to react to problems when they marry.
Absolutely. They see…and watch everything. Thank you.
will you marry me? 😀
Hey singles, chk out M…2’s site. =)
lolz
The best thing in a marriage is when you get to the point you realise he/she is a really good person, so I will just treat them accordingly. 33 years and have never been happier.
Wow. 33. I really like that. The simple assumption of the good, that you start from that point. Rather than making him earn love or respect. Thanks, A.
Such lighthearted and full of love too:)
Appreciate the read. =)
I don’t know which point I love most! I’d love to see this made into an infograph! LOL ❤
Ha ha ha. Too much work. I am one tired woman from counting to a million in Eng and Korean. Anybody out there may feel free… =)
I hear you on the tired front Diana. 🙂
Diana, only you could possibly come up with a post that is both funny and enduring. Remembering that he said, “I do” is so sweet. And you counting in Korean made me laugh. My husband used to tell me I had “German” ways and that would always get under my skin. I’m part German. 🙂 But anyhow, I love all the ways of dealing with things that irk a wife in her marriage. Yvonne x
Chuckle. German ways, huh? ‘S probably what’s helped you pull through the tough year with D (not to mention the bumps in the marriage). =)
You are correct on every count. I am stubborn and don’t give up. Just keep on, keeping on. (My marriage was like one of those old washboards). I had to keep on scrubbing on that rugged surface or put the dirty clothes in the fire. After all was said and done I was/am glad I kept scrubbing. 🙂
Marriage…washboard…ha ha ha ha. I’m not sure who’s more wrung out at the end, you or the marriage. But where would the human race be if not for us women who keep at it?
Xxx
D.
So true… There is a story about a famous Rabbi (18th century) who married a young couple only to see them a month later asking for divorce. The reason? Arguing all the time. He gave them a small vial of water which he called “holy water” and instructed them to take a mouthful of it the moment they start arguing, but not swallow, just hold it as long as they can and then spit it out. And be very sparing with it, as there is no more! A month later they came back and reported that, miraculously, they stopped arguing. No divorce. The holy water helped! The Rabbi is one of my ancestors, and my grandmother told me this story when I became engaged.
I wonder why they weren’t supposed to swallow. Too holy? One could say this makes a strong case for the placebo effect. But hey, whatever works! I’ll take some o’ that!
They weren’t supposed to swallow to keep their mouths shut for a while, until they would forget what they were going to argue about! The water wasn’t holy, of course. Its the same method as your counting in Korean, but involving both spouses. It takes an authority figure, though, to get a husband involved in a piece-making process.
Ha ha ha. That is funny. And yes, mediation – esp by an authority figure – certainly would help!
At a post-wedding dinner for my younger son, I gave my new daughter-in-law a rolling pin as a gift designed to ensure peace in the family. First, you use it to bake delicious things (my son has a monster sweet tooth!), and secondly, if he misbehaves, you have a sturdy weapon in your hand! It was a joke, of course, but in 8 years, she baked lots of delicious cakes and cookies and never had to implement behavior modification!
LOL. You are one SWEET Mom-in-Law.
Ha! I guess I am, at that!
Love this. Good thing I love chocolate… and lots of it! 😊
Ha ha ha. I’d recommend a pancreas supplement, then. =)
Encouraging
LOL. That I’d have us women work so hard to salvage our marriages…
Actually, it was the note of commitment at the end that appealed
Ah. Thanks for clarifying, D.
I love this. It’s a great way to laugh through the insanity. Will definitely share on my other sites for the married and the same as being married women I know. Bless your hearts.
Thank you. =) Glad you enjoyed.
Ps. Thank you for liking my blog.
Poignant and honest. Great post!
I think it’s always a great strategy if you can get a foreign language out of it. 😉
Enjoyed this. And I also enjoy a sweet nap because, well, it is quite sweet indeed. ; )
Nothing wrong with naps, if they don’t keep you from the Honey Dos. =)
True!
Oh darn! Had I seen this years ago I might still be married🤣😆😜
Self-mutilation would’ve saved you. 😛
I think the marriage was self-mutilating enough 😉
I imagined..
Hahaha
Glad you can laugh!
Oh my heavens yes. I’d like to think by now I’ve learned my lesson well. I do much better on my own and have been single for 6 years. 😲Yikes I had no idea it’s been that long.
Time flies when you’re having fun.
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Made me laugh a lot. I remind myself daily that this isn’t Hollywood. You don’t get the guy & live happily ever after – you have to work at it. Every. Single. Day 🙂
Every. Single. Hour.
So true…loved it
If these rules work follow them. From my 40 years experience of Happy Marriage the only I can say Love you spouse and make him/she Happy then you’ll be Happy too.
I’ll make him happy if it KILLS me. LOL.
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And if he doesn’t respond to any of this, chuck him in favour of one of us who does! That said, I enjoyed your post very much, thanks!
Ha ha. I think I’ll show him this comment.
Let’s hope he laughs, too!
Don’t think so…lol.
Whoops … hope he’s not bigger than me!
Just let me know if you get a strange reader breathing down your neck.
All my readers are strange …
There are reasons why, Dave…
… I was going to add, thank goodness!
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LOL
Magnificent post!
This from a man!
Oh dear, I laugh at your pain 🙂
Laughing at the thought of you laughing.
This sounds like silent torture to some degree and yet it might be a way to keep the peace. The sad truth is their are some who are living this reality. Great insight and food for thought.
Eegh.
Thanks for sharing that beautiful photo memory.
LOL, every woman should follow 🙂 this is so funny D! 🙂
You laugh at my pain.
#6 is my favorite. That Honey Do list is at my fingertips when he thinks he’s going to spend all of Saturday in front of the TV.
When he THINKS…LOL. I should’ve added: Have it ready to send and shoot it out right after breakfast.
Hahaha… XD
=)
Use your imagination. Yes. But sometimes, men can’t even explain themselves and what they have done, and hence the excuses. You know, the excuses always are rather entertaining and you wonder how some men can come up with them over and over again. And maybe repeat them over and over again.
LOL.
Interesting read for a Newly Wed! Thanks!
-Jacklyn
LOL. Oh dear. I’d say forget it all for now…but do bookmark it. 😛
Peggy can pick out whatever she wants for my one manly-chore per month, D. And I will do it. Now it may take a while to get around to it… 🙂 –Curt
ONE…per MONTH?!! I need to talk to her. Hey, stop pushing her away. Hey — you shoved her into the kitchen.
Hey, I am the one who spends the most time in the kitchen! 🙂 But I just read her your response. I’d have her read your blog, but there s no need to get that radical. Laughing. –Curt
L O LLL. Come now, Curt. I dare you to show her the post. I know you’re no SCAREDY CAT.
Egged on…
Yep. I’ve no shame.
If chocolate makes us more endurable, then perhaps our eating chocolate may make us more endearing. It’s worth a try, I think.