My Love Languages…and His

His: Korean Food, home-cooked (BAH! Do you know how time-consuming it is?)
Hers: Completing To-Do List (cheerfully)
His: Touch (Bah! Just Bah!)
Hers: Eye contact, full attention. Turn off A.D.D. (Touch not necessary.)
His: Live piano music (Well, all right. I do miss playing.)
Hers: Time. To. Write.

134 thoughts on “My Love Languages…and His”

  10. Making a list. Giving it my full attention. Purchasing items so he can make Korean food while I play the piano and make plans to write about this glorious moment later on. Bahahaha!!! 🙂

  13. Oh my word! Your’s is one of the most realistic “love languages” that I have ever read. I’m sure Gary Chapman would agree 🙂 p.s. you’re hilarious!

  14. (The following may not be anyone else’s experience).

    Dawn and I read about love languages about 25 years ago. We gave up thinking about it about 24 1/2 years ago. It just led to confusing arguments. Instead, we have learned to focus on serving one another in love without the labels. That means we each had to learn to think less about “me”, “my style”, “preference” “language”, etc. Instead, we had to learn to think about how to be a blessing to the other; how to make the other feel cherished and treasured.

    If love language-focus doesn’t help your marriage grow in that direction, then try another way of thinking about your marriage. Just a thought.

    (Our 29th anniversary is next month.)

    1. *smile* That rocks, that you’re hitting 29, Lon. Very happy for you guys. I know it’s been quite a journey. The joking aside, I will keep your hard-earned wisdom in mind. (And I love how you tend to jump off the bell curve.)

      5. *Laughing* Before you hang the towel on my blog and paint it a dud in your book, it’s half and half. We’ve had quite a year with the humor flying – seems they didn’t know I could be funny – have just loved it. But the Force in you didn’t serve you too well today (you need more sleep, dude); you happened to try to strike it up with the wrong ones, for the most part. (I said, oh no, not him. No, J, not with him.) LOL.

        Well, if you’re ever in need of so much sympathy and love that a single fan mail isn’t all it takes to make you burst into tears (LOL!!) you know where to come. Try next time. You do like a challenge. *wink*

        lmao

  18. Well Diana, just take 15 minutes and play the piano for your husband. If he loves to hear you play that is a huge compliment. I’d be over joyed if I were you. You live with your husband not your blogger fans. We shall all be here, when ever you post.

    1. I was going to play last night but all the evening to-dos got in the way. You know that’s the busiest time for moms, with dishes and tucking them in, etc. But I realized something: when I play for him, I start fiddling and practicing melodies to…POST! HA! Well, who can chide, when it’s efficiency? I’m allowed to work on a post as long as he’s made happy. LOL.

  21. Aww. I think it’s sweet that he enjoys your piano playing so much 🙂 You guys seems like a very compatible couple. It’s nice to find that special-someone to share those connections with!

  23. We speak different languages to I think!
    Me: After answering your question with great detail what do you have to say?
    Him: Ugh I got nothing!
    Me: Are you kidding you asked what you could do to make our marriage better and I told you and you have no comment?
    Him: No I’m Indian we don’t talk much!
    Oh well that explains it all! This post made me laugh! I love your sense of humor! 😄

      3. I love that so true! Those are called power-walks. I know my neighbors think I’m nuts because I talk out loud just me and the dog. If anyone sees me I try to act like I’m talking to the dog. 😀

    1. Ha ha ha ha ha. There’s the barely disguised cynicism, which in your cynicism you would call realism.

      “You like potato and I like potahto
      You like tomato and I like tomahto
      Potato, potahto, tomato, tomahto.
      Let’s call the whole thing off.”

      He told me I can look up the lyrics when I wanted to add them to the post ha ha ha.

      5. Seems more like two joined by their divergence. =)

        And you’d be the one saying potato. If not from the dignity you inherited from the great UK, the one you merited from the graying hair. You men.

        I’m only jealous.

  28. Heh heh heh. I am also one of those people who just likes to cross things off on their to-do list. It just makes sense. But with all this touching and strenuous food preparation… the hands would probably best be left for the writing or at the very least, piano, don’t you think?

    “Also, look at me when I am talking to you. Are you even listening?”

    My imagination runs wild.

    1. “But with all this touching and strenuous food preparation… the hands would probably best be left for the writing” LOL!!!

      ““Also, look at me when I am talking to you. Are you even listening?””

      BAwwWL!!! *Sniff sniff*

  32. His: sex
    Her: house cleaned, a massage, dinner cooked, a cup of tea and an hour to read, time to write, a well chosen gift, a cuddle with no expectations…any of the above plus more :). See? Easy 🙂

  35. Some differences are probably attributable to gender, more are likely personality type differences that cross genders. We’ve been married for 56 years and are extreme opposites on all the areas that the Myers/Briggs Type Indicator measures. It took us 17 years to figure out that we weren’t hearing each other’s expressions of love across our differences. You don’t have to speak the other’s language all the time, if they understand how you are expressing it your way. Then when you make the effort to do it their way, the other person feels really really loved and you feel very loving. One breakthrough for us was discovering that though my husband wasn’t fluent in speaking about his feelings, he could express his feelings very effectively in writing.

  36. LOL. I take it you read the 5 love languages book, maybe? Mine is touch so I’m always telling my guy, “i need some first language of love right now, please.” Food is definitely a love language for me for sure. Happy New Year, Diana. xo

    1. I actually haven’t read it. Our church small group ran through a condensed version of the book once. Was fun. But I’m still exasperated to be touched the way HE WANTS to be LOL. That’s funny and nice to know that’s your language, D.

      Happy new year, my sweet friend.
      Diana

  37. My 86 year-old Mother has a boyfriend. He is deaf and does all the cooking. He is a good cook.
    I’m thinking this is a marvelous relationship. He is also brilliant, good looking and kind.

  38. I too love my food 🙂 When I was young I ate Korean food quite often – my cousin used to have a colleague who was Korean and loved to cook. I agree that her dishes were quite complicated, but tasted divine!

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