His: Korean Food, home-cooked (BAH! Do you know how time-consuming it is?)
Hers: Completing To-Do List (cheerfully)
His: Touch (Bah! Just Bah!)
Hers: Eye contact, full attention. Turn off A.D.D. (Touch not necessary.)
His: Live piano music (Well, all right. I do miss playing.)
Hers: Time. To. Write.
134 thoughts on “My Love Languages…and His”
What is life without a bit of touching. lmao… 🙂
I hear you on that 😦
Is Korean food difficult to prepare?
When you get a chance, I mention it:
Read it. Wow. Great post.
Hey, thanks for taking a moment, JC.
Not at all. Easiest meals to make on the planet! Equal to microwavable meals in many regards.
“Easiest meals to make on the planet!”
Right. Of course it’s a MAN talking!!
LoL in all fairness I CAN cook Korean food very well. I ran a restaurant for a year. 🙂
But any bona fide Korean cook knows K cuisine is quite a show.
I get your list 😉
As long as there is communication, I’m sure you can work it out 🙂
HA ha ha ha
oh yea, what it’s you loven for me.
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Match made in Heaven 🙂
LOL You got it.
Ours would be near identical! Especially relate to the request to turn off A D D 😀
LOL!! Poor you….
Great theme for a post. Time to write, indeed, Diana. In any language! 🙂
HA! In any tongue, indeed.
Haha, Korean food can be time consuming but it’s sooo good!!!
Just doesn’t give me the jollies it gives him. ^^
You guys just aren’t putting your wrist into it.
Don’t you know how exhausting rolling gimbap is…..lol
Yes I do and now… I want some. Darn you! =P
Making a list. Giving it my full attention. Purchasing items so he can make Korean food while I play the piano and make plans to write about this glorious moment later on. Bahahaha!!! 🙂
LOL What a great (re)arrangement of my list.
LOL! Thx for taking the time.
Ahh… Love… Isn’t it just wonderful..??!!
Really so familiar…..
Ha ha ha, I see.
Oh my word! Your’s is one of the most realistic “love languages” that I have ever read. I’m sure Gary Chapman would agree 🙂 p.s. you’re hilarious!
I think he would. =)
(The following may not be anyone else’s experience).
Dawn and I read about love languages about 25 years ago. We gave up thinking about it about 24 1/2 years ago. It just led to confusing arguments. Instead, we have learned to focus on serving one another in love without the labels. That means we each had to learn to think less about “me”, “my style”, “preference” “language”, etc. Instead, we had to learn to think about how to be a blessing to the other; how to make the other feel cherished and treasured.
If love language-focus doesn’t help your marriage grow in that direction, then try another way of thinking about your marriage. Just a thought.
(Our 29th anniversary is next month.)
*smile* That rocks, that you’re hitting 29, Lon. Very happy for you guys. I know it’s been quite a journey. The joking aside, I will keep your hard-earned wisdom in mind. (And I love how you tend to jump off the bell curve.)
Isn’t being yourself a blessing to everyone around you though? I feel like a shining light most days…
Never mind him, Lon. OM’s decided to wise-crack on this post today.
Oops, 🙂 Maybe you share other secret languages that bonds you with your husband. Consider this from Rumi-
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,
there is a field. I’ll meet you there.”
HA HA Ha ha ha. Huh. I’ll have to ask him what those secret lgs are.
You compliment each other very nicely!
Any kind of food if you make it with Love is time consuming. Otherwise do not even try.
Actually, you’re right on, Alex, because the food we prepare in the way we do it absorbs our energy. Thanks.
Even microwave ramen?
Do not simplify the subject. I am not saying about heating I am saying about cooking.
[scratches off “cook” from his resume]
Lmao, I don’t think my humor fits in with your readers. 😉 Kind of makes it even more fun.
*Laughing* Before you hang the towel on my blog and paint it a dud in your book, it’s half and half. We’ve had quite a year with the humor flying – seems they didn’t know I could be funny – have just loved it. But the Force in you didn’t serve you too well today (you need more sleep, dude); you happened to try to strike it up with the wrong ones, for the most part. (I said, oh no, not him. No, J, not with him.) LOL.
Well, if you’re ever in need of so much sympathy and love that a single fan mail isn’t all it takes to make you burst into tears (LOL!!) you know where to come. Try next time. You do like a challenge. *wink*
Well Diana, just take 15 minutes and play the piano for your husband. If he loves to hear you play that is a huge compliment. I’d be over joyed if I were you. You live with your husband not your blogger fans. We shall all be here, when ever you post.
Yes, Ma’m. Off to play it…
Alright. Good for you and then make that a habit. I’d be doing back flips if I were young and had a husband that loved to listen to me play the piano. You are very fortunate.
Confession: I then start fiddling with songs I might post LOL. Hey, two birds, one stone. Time Nazi. As long as he likes what he’s hearing, I’m allowed.
I agree, she should do more to entertain her husband. Well said!
You’re really skating on thin ice, OM.
Two opposites at work here.
lol Right, the Law of Magnets.
Looks like you got a little time to write. Is anyone playing the piano?
I was going to play last night but all the evening to-dos got in the way. You know that’s the busiest time for moms, with dishes and tucking them in, etc. But I realized something: when I play for him, I start fiddling and practicing melodies to…POST! HA! Well, who can chide, when it’s efficiency? I’m allowed to work on a post as long as he’s made happy. LOL.
Two birds, one feeder. Win win!
Exactly. Plan to bring this up again. ‘S all about efficiency.
She is Korean… she can write AND play the piano at the same time!!!
Yah. It’s called song-writing. =)
Aww. I think it’s sweet that he enjoys your piano playing so much 🙂 You guys seems like a very compatible couple. It’s nice to find that special-someone to share those connections with!
A husband might also like his wife to play an instrument… so she can’t also talk. Just a theory… lmao. And on that note… I should run.
Reaching for my Mafia sister’s .45….
Wonderul! Yes men and women are so different! The Creator made us to be interesting to each other! My wife is just fascinating! 🙂
Ha ha ha ha. Fascinating, I’m sure. Ha ha.
I thought we were made on separate assembly lines…
It seems like that sometimes! 🙂
lmao, doesn’t it? 😉
We speak different languages to I think!
Me: After answering your question with great detail what do you have to say?
Him: Ugh I got nothing!
Me: Are you kidding you asked what you could do to make our marriage better and I told you and you have no comment?
Him: No I’m Indian we don’t talk much!
Oh well that explains it all! This post made me laugh! I love your sense of humor! 😄
LOL Gee…good luck, MM.
LOL!! (Gotta laugh, so we don’t cry, right?)
Oh yes! I always choose laugh over running screaming out of the house! Lol kidding! But I surely have yaken many walks! 😄
lol Many walks. (Blog post inspirations he he)
I love that so true! Those are called power-walks. I know my neighbors think I’m nuts because I talk out loud just me and the dog. If anyone sees me I try to act like I’m talking to the dog. 😀
You’re married. What’s new?
Ha ha ha ha ha. There’s the barely disguised cynicism, which in your cynicism you would call realism.
“You like potato and I like potahto
You like tomato and I like tomahto
Potato, potahto, tomato, tomahto.
Let’s call the whole thing off.”
He told me I can look up the lyrics when I wanted to add them to the post ha ha ha.
oh yea and im like casava and paw-paw.
“casava and paw-paw.” Ah, a global virus. =)
why you can declare a global sinkon virus., I know people kapilatis he like you.
You say potato and I say spud. We’re two people divided by a common language.
Seems more like two joined by their divergence. =)
And you’d be the one saying potato. If not from the dignity you inherited from the great UK, the one you merited from the graying hair. You men.
I’m only jealous.
Hmm… my story is the same, except that His and Her are switched over… I wonder what that means….
Ha ha. That just makes it a bit more interesting.
Actually, he and I are like that in some regards, too. He is more heart, I am more head. ^^
That you are more current with the times?
Preparation of Korean food: The nearest Korean restaurant. Touch is good, especially with eye contact at the same time. Comment on next blog where comments are closed. Right. 🙂 –Curt
*grin* Yep, the restrnt’s sure saved us. Except our wallet can hold up only so long.
I appreciate your EFFiCiEnT comments (per closed post).
Brief takes lots of practice. 🙂
I agree, having others make your food is always smart.
You mean love has a language?
Were you being humorous or really asking? =)
“Love Language” was coined by Gary Chapman to speak of the ways we prefer (actively and passively) to communicate love. You can Google. =)
Unspoken love often speaks the loudest.
It sounds and looks similar to a hula hoop dance…
Heh heh heh. I am also one of those people who just likes to cross things off on their to-do list. It just makes sense. But with all this touching and strenuous food preparation… the hands would probably best be left for the writing or at the very least, piano, don’t you think?
“Also, look at me when I am talking to you. Are you even listening?”
My imagination runs wild.
“But with all this touching and strenuous food preparation… the hands would probably best be left for the writing” LOL!!!
““Also, look at me when I am talking to you. Are you even listening?””
BAwwWL!!! *Sniff sniff*
I like all this touching talk. It works for me. 🙂
😆 Turn off ADD…oh yeah, I can relate to that one. lol.
I imagine many women can. ^ ^
Turning off the ADD is easy… it is the ADHD that gets tricky!
Yeah, your wife deserves a crown. I couldn’t deal…
You have officially been trolled… lmao.
Now I know what your notif window looks like on days you’re trolled. I have over a dozen of your gravatars running down the column…
Isn’t my gravatar cute? I just left my last “bomb” and now I should run before you stab me.
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Her: house cleaned, a massage, dinner cooked, a cup of tea and an hour to read, time to write, a well chosen gift, a cuddle with no expectations…any of the above plus more :). See? Easy 🙂
“a cuddle with no expectations…”
A post, right there.
Her: anything and everything else
High five returned 🙂
A few powerful lines that say a lot in between. 🙂
My wife’s love language is “stay the hell away from me!” Thanks for stopping by my blog! 🙂
Right. If you saw, that was my latest post The Best Gift For Her. LOL. Thanks for the visit.
Some differences are probably attributable to gender, more are likely personality type differences that cross genders. We’ve been married for 56 years and are extreme opposites on all the areas that the Myers/Briggs Type Indicator measures. It took us 17 years to figure out that we weren’t hearing each other’s expressions of love across our differences. You don’t have to speak the other’s language all the time, if they understand how you are expressing it your way. Then when you make the effort to do it their way, the other person feels really really loved and you feel very loving. One breakthrough for us was discovering that though my husband wasn’t fluent in speaking about his feelings, he could express his feelings very effectively in writing.
Sending this to Hubby, too! How wonderful you both discovered his gift of expression. Oh, the poems and romance I can just see…
LOL. I take it you read the 5 love languages book, maybe? Mine is touch so I’m always telling my guy, “i need some first language of love right now, please.” Food is definitely a love language for me for sure. Happy New Year, Diana. xo
I actually haven’t read it. Our church small group ran through a condensed version of the book once. Was fun. But I’m still exasperated to be touched the way HE WANTS to be LOL. That’s funny and nice to know that’s your language, D.
Happy new year, my sweet friend.
My 86 year-old Mother has a boyfriend. He is deaf and does all the cooking. He is a good cook.
I’m thinking this is a marvelous relationship. He is also brilliant, good looking and kind.
Ha ha ha I LOVE it! Thanks for sharing, Ginene. Happy new year.
I too love my food 🙂 When I was young I ate Korean food quite often – my cousin used to have a colleague who was Korean and loved to cook. I agree that her dishes were quite complicated, but tasted divine!
Oh, I would NEVER have known this about you! How funny. Thx for sharing.